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This morning I was mulling over some bad relationship advice I had recently given a friend. Family, friends, and strangers alike have been inclined to pour their hearts out to me once they discover how much I care. In all of my relationships I am an ear to listen, a shoulder to cry on, and a friend to confide in. As sappy as it sounds, I just want love and happiness for everyone. Is it because I’m completely selfless? No. It’s because I am a believer in the saying that “hurt people” hurt people. But I also believe that “loved people” love people. And how much better would the world be with a little more love?
I have a friend who has grown to really trust the advice I give her. But about a month ago when asking for advice on a pretty major conflict in her new relationship, my words were riddled pessimism, negativity, and personal insecurities. You know that bitter friend you have? The one you absolutely can’t talk to about anything because he or she always manages to find the storm in every cloud? The friend who has been so hurt that it becomes his or her mission to inform everyone that they are susceptible to the same kind of pain? Without even knowing it, I became that friend, and it was because the conflict she faced was a really sore subject for me. It only took a few minutes to realize the mistake I made. And although I apologized and retracted every statement I made, the damage was done. How do I know? Because I learned that, very recently, she could have used my emotional support. But instead of calling me, she suffered in silence.
So while mulling over the words I should have said, and the advice I want to give in the future, I decided to start a blog. As a mom, a wife, a daughter, a sister, a friend, a co-worker, or the random person you’re stuck next to on an airplane, I have shared a lot of relationship advice that I feel could potentially help other people. I realize that we are not all the same, that our worldviews are different, and that our experiences are unique. But underneath it all we are human, and we all want to find success in love.
The purpose of this blog is to share my thoughts on how to create and maintain successful and loving relationships. I don’t have any credentials or career- related experience that qualifies my advice. All I have is my desire to love, to be loved, and to give my opinion on the best way to love others. So think of me as your best girlfriend. The one you can trust with the secrets of your heart, because you know that anything she says stems from a place that wants you to be happy. And my only hope is that my words will inspire at least one reader to find success in love.