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I started this blog in February 2014, shortly after thinking through some bad relationship advice I had given a friend, and wishing I had the chance to do it all over again (read more here). In fact, at the time there were several people in my life who were opening up to me about their relationships, and really taking to heart my advice on how to successfully make it past the honeymoon phase. Many of these people were in my life at the beginning of my own relationship, witnesses to how my husband and I all but fell apart, then came through the other side more in love than ever before.
To get more insight into their struggles, I started reaching out to other singles, asking them to be real with me about the dating world. I watched them vet through potential relationship partners, listened to their complaints about lack of marital qualities in the pool potential. I watched them dive head first into brand new relationships with a person they truly believed to be THE ONE, just to see their relationships completely fall apart after three to six months. I was stunned to learn that across races, age groups, and genders, the foundation of their struggles to find love were all the same.
As I reflect on period of my marriage when my husband and I were failing at maintaining a loving relationship, I realize this failure was my fault. And I learned that it’s very possible for the success (or failure) of a relationship to fall on the shoulders of one person. So in order to tell my story, to give advice to anyone willing to receive it, I created “Success in Love: Relationship Advice from Your Best Girlfriend”.
What I didn’t anticipate, however, was how much I would grow and evolve as I wrote, edited, and re-read my own posts over and over again. Honesty: The Main Ingredient of True Love was a turning point for me. The self-reflective moment that inspired this post set me on a journey toward healing and wholeness. And today, almost three years later, I am not even close to the same woman I was when I started this blog.
In addition, those same friends and strangers that inspired me to start this blog in 2014 are in a different place today, too. Many of them are in long-term relationships now, putting in the work to make them loving, long-lasting, and successful. And so, inspired to continue telling my story and to help them along their journeys, I am re-introducing Success in Love: Relationship Advice from Your Best Girlfriend. My posts will be written for anyone in a brand new or long-term relationship that is progressing steadily toward marriage. I will also start documenting the successes and failures of my own marriage, chronicling our steps on the road to “til death do us part”.
My next post will be called, “Why I’m Qualified to Give Relationship Advice.” I’ll be sharing a brief backstory of my own relationship and the breakthroughs that led to how I discovered the real meaning of true love.
Love & Happiness from Your Best Girlfriend