My younger sister sent this to my husband and I for Christmas.
Couple’s Kindle Cards is a weekly action plan designed to spark emotional and physical intimacy in a relationship. Sounds pretty lame, right? Well, it is. And I LOVE it!
A couple weeks ago I talked my husband into busting this open, and the first action card we drew was to write each other love letters. I was in heaven. He was in purgatory. HAHA!
I’m a huge helpless romantic and my husband is sooo not. So while I was swooning he was trying his best to get out of this activity. But after promising I’d stay up to watch an episode of The Wire with him, he agreed to give it a try.
Instead of writing traditional letters to exchange, I proposed that we both spend exactly seven minutes jotting down some thoughts about each other to share out loud.
I’d like to share what I wrote him.
“I think you’re hilarious and make me laugh all the time. In the middle of all the pressure we face taking care of our girls and our home, your sense of humor keeps our friendship alive.
I chose you all those years ago because you had a kind heart unlike anyone I had ever met before. Thirteen years later, after all the people I’ve come in contact with, I have yet to discover anyone who has a kinder heart than yours.
You keep me balanced, sane, and rational. Every time I go off the deep end you always calm me down and level out my emotions.
Thank you for staying with me, even after all the times I hurt you. I’ll spend the rest of my life making things right, and will keep trying my hardest to be the best possible wife I can for you.”
Here is what is what he wrote to me.
“I’m really happy with where we’re at in our relationship, and I’m thankful for the journey we’ve had.
I don’t have any regrets and can’t even remember the bad times. Please don’t feel like you have to make anything up to me.
I’m excited for all there is to come. I love our girls and I’m proud of how we’ve worked together to take care of them.
I’m also thankful that you have embraced my family.
I appreciate that you keep me balanced and grounded.
Thank you for always supporting me in my dreams and goals.”
2017 marks thirteen years since my husband and I started dating. And it wasn’t until we exchanged these words that I realized how essential it is to verbalize the feelings we have for the person we love. I’m being a bit dramatic when I say this, but writing these letters sparked something between us. Sharing what it is we still love and appreciate about each, even after all this time, almost felt like we renewed our vows to stay together forever.
If you’re married, or in a relationship that has successfully made it passed the honeymoon phase, please take a few minutes every once in a while to remind your partner why you love them. It may not re-ignite the burning passion of your puppy love days, but it will ignite something better, something more real, tangible, and substantive. It will ignite the will to keep fighting for each other.
After all, isn’t that what we want in pursuit of love? The desire to fight for someone? And, despite our flaws, to be someone worth fighting for?
Until next time,
Love & Happiness from Your Best Girlfriend